Freedom In Wickedness

You don't know a thing about my sins.: Trans Men, As A Rule. . .

amostpeculiarman:

pinebark:

dandytrans:

freedominwickedness:

… need to take a seat. Because pretty much everything CAFAB trans* people in general and trans* men in particular ever complain about is peanuts.

The thing about peanuts is that they are very real, but they are also very small. They…

Posts like this really, really piss me off.

They are silencing, alienating, and harmful. I lost my partner - a white trans* FAAB person - to hate violence. He was dragged out of a bar, raped, beaten, and left in the dirt to die. I’ve been flat on my back, more than once, with folks ready to do real damage - one time was a group of cis guys with a baseball bat - standing over me. Situations where I do not know how I walked away. Situations that should have killed me. I’ve been denied jobs - told outright because both times I know of were before there was even flimsy protection - because I’m trans*. I also was assaulted/battered at my law school on a weekly basis - books slapped out of my hands, doors slammed on me, pencils/pens/spitballs tossed at me - my first year before I could start to change the environment and get allies active.

It would be ridiculous to say trans* FAAB folks experience as much violence as MAAB folks or to ignore the specific impact on trans* folks of color. But we can say that without invalidating, ignoring, and silencing experiences.

There are plenty of trans* FAAB folks who have no idea what they are talking about. Who make a sideways glance the end of the world. But that doesn’t mean FAAB people don’t experience very, very real discrimination.

The fact that this individual describes having spitballs thrown at him and doors slammed in his face as serious acts of “battering/abuse” really underscores just how privileged CAFAB trans* people are. Exactly as I said, most of — not all, but most of — the oppression CAFAB trans* people face is peanuts: undeniably real and hurtful, but trivial compared to what CAMAB trans* people face.

The anger and outrage coming from CAFAB trans* people over this is blatant privilege-denying and transmisogyny, not to mention dishonest strawmanning of what I actually said.

1. philoslother reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:

   Um, with all due respect (towards you, no respect is actually due, because you just said that being raped and murdered...

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   whaaat the fuck

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   This might be one of the few times I actually agree with a substantial post on that blog. I’d say ask me about my...

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   Freedominwickedness has constructive responses within

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11. derinthemadscientist reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:

    Good point, I’m less familiar with meatspace genderqueer and LGBTQ groups and don’t feel informed enough to comment on...

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13. freedominwickedness reblogged this from derinthemadscientist and added:

    I certainly agree that it would be a major step forward if CAFAB trans* people stopped constantly derailing every...

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    I agree with much of the points mentioned, both the OP and the commentary. Granted, some things (on both sides) could be...

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23. icanholdmybreathforever reblogged this from babyshibe and added:

    Yeah I don’t know how else you define getting a door slammed on you cause when it happened to me at school that shit...

24. wordsareforwanderers reblogged this from amostpeculiarman and added:

    So many good points in the above. I was actually initially confused when discussion of CAFAB/DFAB discrimination was...

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    And then when CAFAB trans people are challenged on this this of so frequently degender themselves and CAMAB trans folk,...

27. babyshibe reblogged this from cordeliasrevenge and added:

    I wouldn’t normally reblog this sort of thing because it’s just so horrible, but for all of those of you who seriously...

28. abatado reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:

    Oh my god, I’m so glad this collection agency exists now…… And yeah, trans dudes can be such MRAs oh my god. And we...

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    ^^^^FUCKING THIS

31. tal9000 reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:

    Very nearly every accusation radfems make against trans women is true about trans men and not about trans women.

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    My apologies for...previous post there...‘trans woman’ and...

34. amostpeculiarman reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:

    I have spent the night and most of the day thinking on the OP, my response, and the way my response was (mis)construed...

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