Freedom In Wickedness

It is a consistent theme in past cultures that elite courtesans were often the only truly free women. They were women of intellect, education, and power in worlds which denied that a woman could be anything.

It's time to reclaim that heritage.

You don't know a thing about my sins.: Trans Men, As A Rule. . .





… need to take a seat. Because pretty much everything CAFAB trans* people in general and trans* men in particular ever complain about is peanuts.

The thing about peanuts is that they are very real, but they are also very small. They…

Posts like this really, really piss me off.

They are silencing, alienating, and harmful. I lost my partner - a white trans* FAAB person - to hate violence. He was dragged out of a bar, raped, beaten, and left in the dirt to die. I’ve been flat on my back, more than once, with folks ready to do real damage - one time was a group of cis guys with a baseball bat - standing over me. Situations where I do not know how I walked away. Situations that should have killed me. I’ve been denied jobs - told outright because both times I know of were before there was even flimsy protection - because I’m trans*. I also was assaulted/battered at my law school on a weekly basis - books slapped out of my hands, doors slammed on me, pencils/pens/spitballs tossed at me - my first year before I could start to change the environment and get allies active.

It would be ridiculous to say trans* FAAB folks experience as much violence as MAAB folks or to ignore the specific impact on trans* folks of color. But we can say that without invalidating, ignoring, and silencing experiences.

There are plenty of trans* FAAB folks who have no idea what they are talking about. Who make a sideways glance the end of the world. But that doesn’t mean FAAB people don’t experience very, very real discrimination.

The fact that this individual describes having spitballs thrown at him and doors slammed in his face as serious acts of “battering/abuse” really underscores just how privileged CAFAB trans* people are. Exactly as I said, most of — not all, but most of — the oppression CAFAB trans* people face is peanuts: undeniably real and hurtful, but trivial compared to what CAMAB trans* people face.

The anger and outrage coming from CAFAB trans* people over this is blatant privilege-denying and transmisogyny, not to mention dishonest strawmanning of what I actually said.

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  3. profaab reblogged this from pinebark and added:
    whaaat the fuck
  4. j0ltc0la reblogged this from ftmsopinions and added:
    This might be one of the few times I actually agree with a substantial post on that blog. I’d say ask me about my...
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  6. transgenderstudentlife reblogged this from derinthemadscientist and added:
    I implore you to keep up with the notes on this post. Freedominwickedness has constructive responses within the thread...
  7. derinthemadscientist reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:
    Good point, I’m less familiar with meatspace genderqueer and LGBTQ groups and don’t feel informed enough to comment on...
  8. shotgunheart reblogged this from transgenderstudentlife and added:
    I agree with much of the points mentioned, both the OP and the commentary. Granted, some things (on both sides) could be...
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  10. icanholdmybreathforever reblogged this from babyshibe and added:
    Yeah I don’t know how else you define getting a door slammed on you cause when it happened to me at school that shit...
  11. wordsareforwanderers reblogged this from amostpeculiarman and added:
    So many good points in the above. I was actually initially confused when discussion of CAFAB/DFAB discrimination was...
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  13. babyshibe reblogged this from profaab and added:
    I wouldn’t normally reblog this sort of thing because it’s just so horrible, but for all of those of you who seriously...
  14. abatado reblogged this from freedominwickedness and added:
    Oh my god, I’m so glad this collection agency exists now…… And yeah, trans dudes can be such MRAs oh my god. And we...
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    Very nearly every accusation radfems make against trans women is true about trans men and not about trans women.
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    My apologies for misgendering you. Edited the previous post there to retract (via strikethrough) all references to you...
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    I have spent the night and most of the day thinking on the OP, my response, and the way my response was (mis)construed...
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