… need to take a seat. Because pretty much everything CAFAB trans* people in general and trans* men in particular ever complain about is peanuts.
The thing about peanuts is that they are very real, but they are also very small. They…
Posts like this really, really piss me off.
They are silencing, alienating, and harmful. I lost my partner - a white trans* FAAB person - to hate violence. He was dragged out of a bar, raped, beaten, and left in the dirt to die. I’ve been flat on my back, more than once, with folks ready to do real damage - one time was a group of cis guys with a baseball bat - standing over me. Situations where I do not know how I walked away. Situations that should have killed me. I’ve been denied jobs - told outright because both times I know of were before there was even flimsy protection - because I’m trans*. I also was assaulted/battered at my law school on a weekly basis - books slapped out of my hands, doors slammed on me, pencils/pens/spitballs tossed at me - my first year before I could start to change the environment and get allies active.
It would be ridiculous to say trans* FAAB folks experience as much violence as MAAB folks or to ignore the specific impact on trans* folks of color. But we can say that without invalidating, ignoring, and silencing experiences.
There are plenty of trans* FAAB folks who have no idea what they are talking about. Who make a sideways glance the end of the world. But that doesn’t mean FAAB people don’t experience very, very real discrimination.
The fact that this individual describes having spitballs thrown at him and doors slammed in his face as serious acts of “battering/abuse” really underscores just how privileged CAFAB trans* people are. Exactly as I said, most of — not all, but most of — the oppression CAFAB trans* people face is peanuts: undeniably real and hurtful, but trivial compared to what CAMAB trans* people face.
The anger and outrage coming from CAFAB trans* people over this is blatant privilege-denying and transmisogyny, not to mention dishonest strawmanning of what I actually said.
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